There are breakups that break your heart…
And then there are breakups that break your sense of self.

You don’t just lose the other person — you lose your routine, your emotional anchor, your idea of what the future looked like.
And more than anything…
You lose the version of yourself who felt chosen.

That’s what makes it so painful.
You’re not just grieving them.
You’re grieving the way you looked at yourself when you were with them.

The way you lit up when they messaged.
The way your body softened when they held you.
The way your walls came down because, for a moment, you finally felt safe.

Now, it’s not just the silence that hurts.
It’s the questioning.
Was any of it real?
Did they care?
Why wasn’t I enough?

And that spiral… it can be brutal.

Because healing from a breakup isn’t about deleting photos or “moving on.”
It’s about finding the parts of yourself that got wrapped up in their love — and bringing them back home.

It’s about realizing:
You are still lovable.
Still worthy.
Still whole — even without the reflection of their affection.

Therapy doesn’t rush you through this.
It sits with you in the ache.
It helps you grieve without shame.
And it gently walks with you as you rebuild the version of you that never needed to be chosen to feel enough.

If you’re navigating the quiet pain of a breakup, I invite you to book a free 20-minute zoom call.
We’ll hold space for the heartbreak — and for the healing.

Because the end of a relationship isn’t the end of your story.
It might be the beginning of you returning to yourself.